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Erotic Blueprints → Which One Are You? 

Updated: Sep 28, 2023

Written by Dawn Quintanilla, MFT and Certified Erotic Blueprints Coach and Sex Coach

Are you curious about your unique erotic desires and preferences? Do you long to deepen your intimate connections and enhance your pleasure? If so, you're not alone.

Understanding your Erotic Blueprint ™ , aka sexual blueprint or sexual love language, can unlock a world of self-discovery, sexual satisfaction and intimacy in your sex life.

Erotic blueprints can help you better understand your own sexual needs and preferences, as well as your partner’s. But what is a sexual blueprint? And how do you know which one you are?

Get ready to embark on a journey of self-exploration and sensual fulfillment.

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Understanding the Erotic Blueprint ™ Types

There are Five Erotic Blueprint ™ Types that were coined by Jaiya, a renowned somatic sexologist and author. Over the course of two decades, she dedicated herself to conducting body mapping studies, collaborating with a diverse range of individuals in this clinical research. It was this extensive research that ultimately inspired her to develop the comprehensive and insightful quiz that forms the core of her work. You can access the Erotic Blueprints™ quiz through the following link here.

There are five primary erotic blueprint type types which Jaiya calls Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, Shapeshifter. Similar to the five love languages, except for intimacy and your sex life, each blueprint represents a unique approach to experience pleasure and arousal, offering valuable insights into our desires and preferences.

Which Erotic Blueprint Type are You?

To uncover your Erotic Blueprint ™ type, it is essential to explore your responses to different types of stimuli and experiences.

First, pay attention to what turns you on, what excites you, and what brings you the most satisfaction.

Next, reflect on your preferences for tease and anticipation (Energetic type), sensory pleasure (Sensual type), explicit sexual acts (Sexual type), taboo exploration and power play (Kinky type), or versatility and adaptation (Shapeshifter type).

Here is a more detailed breakdown of each type:

The Energetic Type

The Energetic Blueprint is characterized by a profound love for tease, anticipation, and yearning in the realm of sexuality. Individuals with this blueprint find pleasure in the desire itself, cherishing the sensation of wanting. They often require what could be termed "pre-foreplay," such as eye contact, flirting, and deep emotional connection, to fully engage their desires. This blueprint challenges the misconception that sex is solely about intercourse, as it highlights the significance of emotional and mental connection in the realm of eroticism. Energetic's shadow is that they are highly sensitive to arousal changes and can get triggered easily during sex.

The Sensual Type

The Sensual type thrives when all five senses – smell, taste, touch, sight, and sound – are ignited, creating an immersive and captivating experience during sexual play. These individuals prioritize a heart connection before engaging in sexual activities, valuing emotional intimacy. Foreplay centered around the senses is their forte, as they find immense pleasure in sensory exploration. However, their shadow sides may involve being turned off by intense sensation, unpleasant smells, loud noises, or a disorderly environment, highlighting the importance of a sensory-rich and harmonious atmosphere for their desires to flourish.

The Sexual Type

The Sexual blueprint aligns with conventional notions of a sex life, finding arousal in body parts, genital touch and genital stimulation, skin-to-skin contact, orgasmic pleasure, and often emphasizing intercourse. These individuals are strongly attuned to physical sensations. However, their shadow side can manifest as a belief that their approach to sex is the only correct way, potentially leading to judgment of alternative preferences. Balancing open-mindedness with their passionate desires is key for a harmonious sexual connection.

The Kinky Type

The Kinky Blueprint finds its arousal in the realm of taboo and edgy experiences, often embracing power dynamics, erotic fantasies, impact play, and creative explorations. For these individuals, the unconventional is where pleasure resides. Yet, the shadow side can involve grappling with shame, both internal and external, which requires careful self-exploration and communication to fully embrace their desires in a healthy and respectful manner.

The Shapeshifter Blueprint Type

The Shapeshifter embodies a vast capacity for pleasure, often labeled as the "hedonist," imparting a celebration of life's pleasures to other blueprints. Their sexual experiences encompass elements from all the different blueprints, making them incredibly versatile. However, their shadow involves navigating the challenges associated with various blueprint shadows, and they may encounter feelings of being "too much," both from within and from external sources. Balancing their diverse desires with self-acceptance is key for a fulfilling journey of pleasure.

Discovering Your Erotic Blueprint ™

The Erotic Blueprints™ Quiz is a unique tool designed to help individuals explore their sexual preferences and desires in both a structured and holistic way. By taking the quiz, you gain insight into which of the five erotic blueprints - Energetic, Sensual, Sexual, Kinky, or Shapeshifter - resonates most with your own desires and turn-ons. This knowledge can be a powerful catalyst for self-discovery and improving your intimate relationships. Whether you're looking to enhance communication with your partner, understand your own desires more deeply, or simply explore your sexuality, the Erotic Blueprints™ quiz offers a valuable starting point on your journey to sexual fulfillment. You can access the Erotic Blueprints™ quiz through the following link here.

Benefits of the Erotic Blueprint Framework

In the ever-evolving landscape of human sexuality, understanding our desires, needs, and preferences is essential for cultivating deep connections and fostering a fulfilling intimate life. The blueprints offer a captivating framework that delves into the diverse ways individuals experience and express themselves sexually. Whether you are seeking to deepen intimacy, enrich your relationships, or simply gain a deeper understanding of your own desires, the Erotic Blueprints™ hold the key.

Self-Discovery and Self-Acceptance

Exploring the Erotic Blueprints™ can be a profound journey of self-discovery. By identifying which blueprint resonates with you the most, you gain insights into your unique sexual identity. This self-awareness fosters self-acceptance, helping you embrace your desires without judgment. Recognizing that your preferences are valid and natural can boost your self-esteem and overall well-being.

Effective Communication

Understanding your own Erotic Blueprint™ empowers you to effectively communicate your desires to your partner(s). Open conversations about your turn-ons, fantasies, and boundaries become more accessible when you have a clear framework to express your needs. This heightened communication can strengthen emotional bonds, create shared experiences, and lead to more fulfilling intimate connections.

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Deepened Intimacy

Intimacy flourishes when partners are attuned to each other's Erotic Blueprints™. By recognizing and respecting your partner's sexual style, you can tailor experiences that align with their preferences. This not only demonstrates care and consideration for sexual partners, but also leads to deeper emotional connections, as you embark on a journey of exploring each other's desires and fantasies.

Enhanced Pleasure

The Erotic Blueprints™ pave the way to unprecedented pleasure. When you understand what arouses you most, you can create experiences that resonate with your desires. Whether it's teasing, erotic play, sensory exploration, explicit sexual acts, kinks, or versatile encounters, aligning your experiences with your blueprint can lead to heightened satisfaction and intense pleasure.

Overcoming Misconceptions and Judgments

By embracing the Erotic Blueprints™, you challenge societal misconceptions and judgments about what constitutes a fulfilling sex life. Each blueprint offers a unique path to pleasure, dismantling stereotypes and demonstrating the richness of human sexuality. This framework allows you to celebrate your desires and preferences, fostering a more inclusive and compassionate understanding of sexuality.

The Erotic Blueprints™ offer a comprehensive map for navigating the landscape of human sexuality. By embracing this framework, you can uncover your desires, communicate effectively, deepen intimacy, enhance pleasure, and challenge stereotypes. Remember, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to sexuality; each blueprint is a valid expression of desire. Embrace your unique Erotic Blueprint™ and embark on a journey of exploration, connection, and unabashed pleasure.

Limitations of Erotic Blueprints

While the Erotic Blueprint framework offers valuable insights into human sexual experiences, it's important to recognize that no system is without its limitations. As we delve into the diverse world of erotic desires, it's crucial to be aware of potential drawbacks that might arise when using this framework.

As we explore the potential limitations of the Erotic Blueprint framework, it's important to approach it with an open and balanced perspective. While it offers a valuable tool for self-discovery and communication, it should not be the sole determinant of one's sexual identity.

Fluidity of Desires Over Time

Desires are not static; they can evolve and change over time due to various life circumstances, experiences, and personal growth. What might resonate as a primary Erotic Blueprint™ at one point in life might shift to another primary type later on. Relying solely on a fixed blueprint might not account for the fluidity of desires and the adaptability of our erotic identities.

Neglecting Emotional Complexity

The framework emphasizes a spectrum of physical desires, potentially overshadowing the emotional complexities that often intertwine with human intimacy. Emotional connection, vulnerability, and psychological aspects play a significant role in sexual experiences, and focusing solely on the physical aspect might neglect the holistic nature of intimate connections.

Over-emphasis on Blueprint as Identity

While understanding your Erotic Blueprint™ can be empowering, it's essential to remember that it's just one facet of your sexual identity. Relying too heavily on this framework might lead to individuals defining themselves solely through their blueprint, potentially overlooking other aspects that contribute to their unique sexuality and personal growth.

Recognizing the fluidity of desires, the complexity of human sexuality, and the need for holistic understanding ensures that the framework is used as a stepping stone, rather than a rigid mold, on the journey of sexual exploration and self-awareness.

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Sex coaching can give you the customized support you need to truly understand yourself.

Guiding Your Sexual Exploration: A Unique Approach to Sex Coaching

Embarking on a journey of sexual exploration and self-discovery can be both exhilarating and daunting. At times, it's valuable to have a supportive guide who can help you navigate the intricacies of your desires and provide tailored insights. This is where sex coaching comes into play.

Our approach to sex coaching is grounded in a holistic understanding of your desires, needs, and aspirations, taking into account the Erotic Blueprints™ as well as broader aspects of your identity. Through personalized guidance and open communication, we aim to enrich your sexual journey in ways that extend beyond the insights gained from the Erotic Blueprint quiz alone.

Unlocking Deeper Insights Through Sex Coaching

While the Erotic Blueprint quiz provides a valuable starting point, sex coaching offers a more comprehensive and personalized experience.

Our approach goes beyond labeling your blueprint; it delves into the nuances of your desires, taking into consideration your unique life experiences, emotional triggers, and relationship dynamics. By working with a sex and relationship coach first, you can gain a deeper understanding of how your blueprint interacts with your broader identity, helping you navigate any challenges or questions that arise.

Tailored Guidance for Your Journey

Sex coaching provides a safe and non-judgmental space to discuss your desires, concerns, and curiosities. Whether you're seeking to strengthen communication with your partner, explore new facets of intimacy, or address specific challenges, our coaching approach is centered around your individual needs. We create a customized roadmap that aligns with your goals, helping you integrate the insights from the Erotic Blueprints™ into your unique context.

Embark on Your Journey

If you're intrigued by the idea of delving deeper into your desires and enriching your intimate connections, we invite you to take the next step. Schedule a coaching consultation with our certified erotic blueprint coach today!

Remember, sexual exploration is a personal voyage, and having a knowledgeable and compassionate guide can make all the difference. Contact us today to schedule your free consultation and embark on a path of self-discovery, connection, and profound pleasure.


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